Welcome to Haven & Hope

Hi, I'm Molly, and if you're here, chances are you're looking for something real in a world that often feels anything but.

I started Haven & Hope because I know what it's like to sit across from well-meaning people who just don't get it. People who haven't felt the weight of trying to hold it all together while everything's falling apart. Who hasn’t stared at the ceiling at 3 AM wondering if this is all there is.

My journey hasn't been a straight line. It was more like riding a cyclone, a nauseating nightmare I didn’t sign up for. I've sat in therapy offices and support groups trying to figure out why I kept choosing the same painful patterns. I couldn't understand why love always seemed to come with suffering.

Here's what I learned after years of doing the hard work: we all carry stuff. Some of us got handed a rougher deck of cards than others, but we're all walking around with wounds we're trying to hide, patterns we can't seem to break, and this exhausting belief that if people really knew us, they'd run.

Healing doesn't happen when we're performing or pretending everything's fine. It happens in those raw, honest moments when someone looks at you and says "me too." Suddenly you realize you're not broken. You're not too much or not enough. You're just human.

I’ve spent years believing I had to save everyone around me to be worthy of love. I dated people who needed fixing because that's what felt familiar. I confused chaos for chemistry and convinced myself that real love was supposed to hurt. Then life brought me to my knees in a way I never saw coming, and I had no choice but to face all the things I'd been running from.

The work was brutal. There were days I wanted to give up, days I was sure I'd never feel whole again. But somewhere in that darkness, I learned what healthy love actually looks like. How to love myself. That the right person doesn't need me to save them. Stability isn't boring, it's beautiful. And you can't love someone into wholeness if you're still fractured yourself.

These days? I'm happily married, we just celebrated our daughters one-year-old birthday and living a life I once thought was only possible for other people. Not because I'm special or because I figured out some magic formula, but because I finally stopped performing and started healing. I let people see the real me, messy parts and all, and I learned that sometimes the love you're desperately searching for has been there all along, just waiting for you to become ready to receive it.

Haven & Hope is my way of creating the space I desperately needed when I was struggling. It's a place where you don't have to pretend you've got it all figured out. Your anxiety, your trauma, your annoying patterns, your middle-of-the-night spirals? They're all welcome here. Healing happens not because someone with fancy credentials has all the answers, but because we're willing to sit together in the mess and say "yeah, me too."

So if you're tired of feeling alone in your struggles, if you're ready to stop running from the parts of yourself that scare you, if you're looking for a community that actually gets it... I'm really glad you're here.

Because here's the truth: your story isn't over. The best chapters might actually be yet to come. And you absolutely don't have to write them alone.

Truly Yours,

Molly