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Anxiety can feel like carrying a constant weight of racing thoughts, physical tension, and the overwhelming sense that something is always about to go wrong. Whether you're dealing with generalized anxiety, panic attacks, social anxiety, or specific fears, it can be exhausting to face each day feeling on edge. In our support groups, members share coping strategies, discuss triggers, and find comfort in knowing they're not alone in their struggles. Together, we explore what works, what doesn't, and how to reclaim peace in our daily lives.

Major life transitions can leave us feeling untethered and uncertain about who we are and where we're headed. Whether you're navigating the demands of new motherhood, processing the pain of divorce, reentering the dating world, or redefining yourself as a single person, these changes can challenge everything you thought you knew about yourself. Our groups provide a safe space to share your experiences, process complex emotions, and learn from others who are walking similar paths. You'll find understanding, practical wisdom, and the reminder that transformation, while difficult, can also lead to profound growth.

Codependency often means losing yourself in the needs, feelings, and problems of others; prioritizing their well-being over your own to the point of exhaustion and resentment. You might struggle with setting boundaries, feel responsible for fixing others, or find your self-worth tied to being needed. In our support groups, we explore patterns of codependency, learn to recognize our own needs and limits, and practice building healthier relationships. Letting go of people-pleasing and learning how to say no. Together, we work on reclaiming our identities and finding balance between caring for others and caring for ourselves.

Trauma can reshape how you see yourself, others, and the world around you leaving lasting impacts on your mental health, relationships, and daily functioning. Whether you're dealing with childhood trauma, a specific traumatic event, or complex trauma from ongoing experiences, the effects can feel isolating and overwhelming. Our groups offer a compassionate space where you can share your story at your own pace, connect with others who understand the long road to healing, and learn tools in trauma management. You don't have to carry this burden alone.

Relationships, whether romantic, familial, or platonic can be sources of both deep fulfillment and profound pain. Communication breakdowns, trust issues, conflict patterns, and feeling disconnected from those we love can leave us feeling frustrated and hopeless. In our support groups, members discuss their relationship challenges openly, share different perspectives, and explore healthier ways of connecting. Together, we learn about boundaries, effective communication, and how to build relationships that honor both ourselves and others.

Grief is deeply personal and can surface from many types of loss like the death of a loved one, the end of a relationship, job loss, or even the loss of dreams and expectations. There's no timeline for grief, and it can feel lonely when others expect you to "move on" before you're ready. Our groups honor wherever you are in your grieving process, providing space to express your pain, share memories, and find solace among others who understand that healing doesn't mean forgetting,it means learning to carry loss while still moving forward.

Low self-esteem can color every aspect of your life affecting your relationships, career choices, and overall sense of worth. You might struggle with negative self-talk, perfectionism, imposter syndrome, or a constant feeling that you're not enough. In our support groups, we explore where these beliefs come from, challenge the inner critic, and practice self-compassion. Together, members celebrate small victories, reframe failures as learning opportunities, and build a more nurturing relationship with themselves.

Loving someone with an addiction; whether to alcohol, drugs, sex, gambling, spending, or other compulsive behaviors can completely consume your life in ways that make you feel like you're losing your mind. And honestly? You kind of are. You're constantly worried, walking on eggshells like you're defusing a bomb every single day, making excuses for their behavior that even you don't believe anymore while sacrificing your own needs to manage whatever crisis erupted that week. The emotional rollercoaster is relentless: fear, anger, shame, guilt, bone-deep exhaustion, and that stubborn little voice that whispers, "Maybe if I just love them harder, help them better, or finally figure out the right thing to say, they'll change." Spoiler alert: that's not how addiction works, but nobody tells you that until you're already drowning.

Over time, their addiction becomes the sun around which your entire world orbits. You've probably found yourself doing things you never imagined: checking their phone at 3 AM, hiding money, canceling plans because you can't predict what state they'll be in, lying to your own family about why you can't make it to dinner again. Your identity gets tangled up in being their savior, their buffer against consequences, their personal crisis management team. You isolate yourself partly because of shame, partly because you're too exhausted to explain to one more person why you're "still dealing with this," and partly because maintaining a normal conversation feels impossible when your brain is running worst-case scenarios on a loop. And here's the kicker: while you're busy managing their life, you completely lose touch with your own feelings, needs, and honestly, yourself.

How Our Support Groups Can Help:

Support groups following the 12-step traditions: Al-Anon, Nar-Anon, S-Anon, Gam-Anon, Debt-Anon, and others are basically your people. The ones who get it without you having to explain a damn thing.

Breaking the Isolation: The first time you walk into one of these rooms and hear someone else describe your exact life, yeah the 2 AM panic attacks, the financial nightmare, the lies you believed even though you KNEW better, the way you've turned into someone you don't even recognize; it's both devastating and weirdly comforting. These people have lived in your shoes. They've done the detective work, the begging, the bargaining, the silent screaming into pillows. No one's going to look at you like you're crazy or weak or stupid. They're just going to nod and say, "Yeah, me too." And that recognition? It's the beginning of everything.

Learning the Three C's: Here's the truth bomb these groups will drop on you: you didn't Cause it, you can't Control it, and you can't Cure it. (Yes, even though you've been trying really, really hard.) This isn't about giving up on your loved one, it's about finally putting down the 500-pound backpack of responsibility that was never yours to carry in the first place. Members will share their own messy journeys of accepting this reality, and fair warning: it's liberating and terrifying in equal measure.

Setting Healthy Boundaries: You'll actually learn what boundaries look like when they're not just a buzzword you read in a self-help article. Real boundaries. The kind that feel impossible at first, like saying no when they ask for money (again), refusing to call their boss with another excuse, or deciding you're not going to another family event where you have to pretend everything's fine. You'll hear from people who've made the hard calls and survived. And you'll discover that boundaries aren't mean or selfish, they're the only way you're going to make it through this with your sanity intact.

Detaching with Love: This is the concept that sounds completely impossible until you see other people actually doing it. It means loving your person while simultaneously refusing to ride their chaos train. It means recognizing that their choices are THEIRS, their consequences are THEIRS, and you climbing into the wreckage with them helps exactly no one. Members share how they've learned to step back from the rescue cycle (even when every cell in their body is screaming at them to fix it), and spoiler: the world doesn't end. In fact, sometimes it actually gets better.

Focusing on Your Own Recovery: Here's the revolutionary part: whether or not your loved one ever gets sober, you get to recover from what this has done to you. You get to remember who you were before addiction became your full-time job. You get to work on your own patterns; the codependency, the enabling, the way you've completely abandoned your own life. Members share actual tools for this stuff: how to quiet the anxiety, how to feel feelings again (weird, right?) and how to do something just because you want to. Radical concept.

Building a Community of Support: Unlike therapy where you see someone once a week for 50 minutes, support groups are ongoing. You can show up as often as you need. You'll get phone numbers of people you can actually call at midnight when you're spiraling. You'll build relationships with humans who won't judge you for still being in this situation, who won't give you the "why don't you just leave?" speech, who will simply bear witness to your story without trying to fix you. That network becomes a lifeline.

The 12-Step Framework: Look, these aren't religious meetings (despite what you might think), but they do use the 12 steps to help you dig into your own stuff. I will say it is a psiritual experience and not in a heebey jeeby way. It's about examining your behaviors and beliefs, figuring out where you've contributed to the dysfunction (ouch, but necessary) and developing practices that help you grow. Many people work with a sponsor, someone who's been through it and can guide you through the steps. And yeah, it can lead to some pretty profound "oh shit, I need to change this about myself" moments.

Hope and Perspective: You'll meet people at all stages. Some whose loved ones got sober. Some whose loved ones didn't. Some who stayed. Some who left. And here's what's wild: members in all of those categories have found peace, happiness, and full lives. That long-term view is everything when you're in the thick of it and can't imagine ever feeling okay again. These people are living proof that you can survive this......and maybe even thrive.

Practical Wisdom: Beyond feelings and philosophy, members share actual practical advice: how to survive the holidays without losing your mind, what to say when your addicted person makes a request (and what not to say....turns out most of our instincts are wrong), how to protect your money, how to talk to kids about what's happening, how to tell the difference between helping and enabling (it's trickier than you think), and approximately a million other scenarios you'll encounter. This is wisdom earned through lived experience, not theories from people who've never walked this path.

Our support groups are a judgment-free zone where you can admit the ugly stuff; the resentment that makes you feel like a terrible person, the rage, the times you've enabled even though you knew better, the moments you've fantasized about just walking away and never looking back. Turns out you're not a bad person; you're a exhausted, traumatized person who deserves support. Week by week, you'll start to reclaim your life. You'll remember that you're a whole person with worth that has nothing to do with whether you can save someone else. You'll learn that loving your addicted person and loving yourself aren't mutually exclusive and that sometimes the most powerful thing you can do is focus on the one life you actually control: yours.